Happy Monday everyone! I hope you’re all starting your week off right and feeling fabulous! But I know for some of you it’s only Monday and already you’re feeling like a failure. It’s okay. We all have those days, those weeks, those months. It happens.
The important thing is to not beat yourself up for it. Understand that you made a mistake somewhere, own it, and move on. Don’t let yourself stay down in the dark place.
But most importantly, don’t let yourself make the dark place more comfortable.
This week’s Uncomfortable Truth:
Losing Weight Won’t Fix The Problem… But It’s A Great Place To Start
I’ve seen a few different articles and images on my Facebook feed over the last week that were all instant red flags. They all seemed really nice and supportive, helping people feel better, which is all fantastic. But when someone breaks their leg, do you want to make them feel better for having a broken leg while keeping the leg broken? Or make them feel better while helping them to fix the leg?
The general idea in these articles was that losing weight won’t make you happy.
This is such a dangerous statement and made me want to punch the author in the face.
“There’s no such thing as happy skinny people.”
“Food is life!”
“Don’t deprive yourself, enjoy your life and be happy!”
Yadda yadda yadda.
It’s another Comfortable Lie. They make the reader feel better about giving up on losing weight. “Well it won’t make me happy! Bring on the cheesecake!” I speak from experience. I too have fallen prey to these misguided articles time and time again.
They are trying to do good, don’t get me wrong. But the point isn’t to make someone feel good about their failures. We should be helping people see where they failed and how they can do better.
Now, they did come pretty close to hitting a very, very important truth. A truth that absolutely does need to be known to everyone.
Being overweight isn’t the problem. It’s a symptom of the problem.
If you were to wake up tomorrow and be your dream weight, you wouldn’t be happy.
Well, obviously you’d be happy.
But that happiness would be fleeting.
Sure you could go out and try on all the bikinis, wear all your old clothes you haven’t seen in a decade, walk down the street and feel proud…
But after a while, this gnawing feeling would start to creep back in…
That hole, the one you were trying to fill with food, would start to ache again.
We don’t eat because we’re overweight.
We’re overweight because we eat.
And we eat because we’re unhappy.
Look at the times you’re most likely to binge. Now look at the base emotion of these times:
Really happy occasions that simultaneously depress us because we’re alone/overweight/getting older etc. For example: Birthdays, parties, holidays.
Really sad occasions; losses, someone close to you is hurting, sad movies even.
Stress and boredom I’m sure are all on the list as well.
When we don’t want to deal with our feelings, we bury them under a pound of ice cream.
It’s our feelings that need fixing.
But do you know what is actually fantastic for feeling better?
Doing anything! When I start to feel a mean case of the munchies coming on I don’t sit and stew. I drink a glass of water or make some black coffee, and I clean! I’ll scrub the bathroom, mop the floors, dust all the windows; In other words, I extrovert.
What’s better than cleaning?
Working out! If I didn’t have a baby, you better believe I would be at the gym at least 5 days a week. As it is I plank and push-up and stretch whenever I have a free 60 seconds.
As Elle Woods put it so beautifully in Legally Blond “Exercise gives you endorphins. Endorphins make you happy!”
If you’re actively working on improving your health in one way or another, you’re going to feel better.
So no, waking up tomorrow and magically being your dream weight and body shape won’t fix the problem.
It’s the long road to that body; It’s the dedication and discipline and self discovery; That is what will make you feel better.
What are some of the major realizations you’ve had on your road to success? Sound off below!